It took me a few years of going to casinos with Anthony before I finally gained the courage to sit down at a blackjack table and PLAY, versus standing over Anthony's shoulder just watching the action. It all went so fast, to me, and I was nervous that I wouldn't be able to pull the trigger in time on the right move. I basically know the rules - when to hit, when to stay, when to split and when to double-down - but for a long time I lacked the courage to get in the game. The last thing I wanted were dirty looks and remarks from the other players at the table if, God forbid, I made the wrong move. Anthony taught me well, and it is important in blackjack to realize that when YOU play wrong, you can upset the entire table of players. People at the other end of the table will sneer "You took my card! That was MY Queen!" if you hit when you should have stood, etc. Once I finally sat down and played, however, I was hooked.
More important, though, than Anthony teaching me blackjack etiquette, was the lesson that he taught me about the make-or-break hand. It is a mystical, non-tangible concept, but it is absolutely essential to learn if you are going to gamble. If, as a player, you start to get on a roll and begin winning several hands in a row, you get to a point where one hand is going to indicate to you whether to keep going, or whether to pack up and leave the table. I'll watch Anthony go on a run winning ten dollar hands, upping his bet to twenty dollar hands, and winning winning winning. Going with this momentum, he'll all of a sudden throw a big bet down on a subsequent hand - say, $100 or so - and he'll turn to me and say "this is my make-or-break hand." Three things will happen at this point. One - he'll win, which means he'll keep playing and betting big. Two - he'll lose, at which point it is time for him to just pick up whatever chips he has left and leave the casino immediately. Three - he'll push - neither win nor lose. This often ends up with the same result as the loss - because he didn't win, he'll either back his betting way off, or he'll quit playing all together.
I've explained this little "Blackjack - Corrado Style" tutorial to express what is happening for us in our lives right now. This week has been dubbed our "Make-Or-Break Week." For many, many reasons.
Things scheduled for this week:
inspection of the house we're trying to sell
signing the P&S of the house we're trying to sell
results of IVF #1
resolution (hopefully) to the big mystery
"problem" haunting us for several weeks. (Furthermore, once a resolution occurs I will finally be at liberty to talk about it here....a bit.)
The first two issues are related, but suffice it to say if the inspection doesn't go well it could affect whether or not the P&S ever happens.
There is so much going on I have hardly noticed that I go for my Beta on Saturday. Okay, that's not entirely true, but I am very distracted and therefore not dwelling on it every second, which I guess is good.
"The problem" that is almost resolved, suffice it to say it is as major a life event as going through IVF or selling and buying a house.
I had a woman I work with tell me that selling a house to buy a house was the most stressful time of her life. I reminded her that "I'll bet you weren't also going through IVF at the time." I was a bit rude to her, but hey I am wound up tight these days. There is a lot on our plate, and it is all coming to a head this week. It is our make-or-break week.
So much could happen. The fact that three major life events have all converged and have come down to resolving themselves for us at the exact same time is a little overwhelming. At the same time, we look forward to answers. We are tired of walking around with giant question-marks suspended in mid-air over our heads.
If the sale of the house falls through, and we aren't pregnant, and our other problem isn't favorably resolved, we know we lost this hand. And that it is time to look back upon 2004 as a "losing" year.
If the house sells, and I am pregnant, and our other problem gets fixed, we'll know we won, and that all the struggles and tears this year were leading up to a bold but beautiful winning finish.
Me myself, I am thinking we're gonna push. I keep saying the house sale will happen, the problem will get resolved, but I still won't be pregnant. I reassure Anthony that if this is the case "at least I will be helpful when we move in the next two weeks."
Anthony has assured me that the only positive result he is TRULY rooting for is Saturday's beta.
Well......that, and the Sox clobbering the Yankees. My God, the ALCS has to be this week, too? My ulcer just can't take it!
If you could have told me on January 1, 2004 everything that we'd go through this year I never in a million years would have believed it. And if you had told me everything would resolve itself in the exact same week, then I would have KNOWN you were lying.
It's our make-or-break week.....I'm praying that we're dealt a winning hand.