CRAVINGS
Oh, so you'd like an update, would you?
Yeah, so would I!
My clinic tested my second beta last Sunday - Easter Sunday - as I mentioned in my last post, and all was good. Then they told me they didn't want to see me for a week!
I am going for another blood test on Sunday, moreo to check my progesterone levels than anything else, but I am sure they will do a Beta test as well. Let me tell you, it has been a long week.
It has been exactly one week since we got the shocking news, and I still spend most of my days shaking my head, repeating silently, "I don't believe it!" It doesn't seem real to me. And this week-in-between-BETA checks is crap!
On Wednesday morning, when I was convinced it had all been a cruel week-early April Fool's joke, I bought myself a home pregnancy test on the way to work and peed on it once I arrived. This was not my first morning pee (no, these days by 8:00AM you can assume I've already peed 719 times), and despite the "less concentrated" urine sample I saw two very bright pink lines for the first time EVER. I re-wrapped the test in its foil package and put it in my bag. (I know - GROSS! - but I feel like I should have it bronzed or something).
I've also already become one of "those people" I didn't want to be. I have called the nurses at the clinic almost every day with questions. "Is this normal?" "Should I be doing this?" "Should I be avoiding THAT?" I am driving them crazy already.
Symptom-wise, I am doing okay I think. Last Saturday I threw up in my mouth, and when I recounted this to my mother and to my sisters, everyone cheered. I have never had anyone be so excited that I puked. But that was all, really, since then there has been the mildest of nausea. So we're okay so far on that front. Otherwise I am just exhausted all the time. I have to pee every five minutes. And my pants are starting to feel tight, although that is probably because I have been on a Ben & Jerry's BINGE since last Friday!
I have developed some cravings, though.
I am craving the day we arrive at week 13 and I can (sort of) exhale.
I am craving a real, true sign that someone is "in there" - like the baby's first kicks (which are many, many months from now).
I am craving the day I can leave my new/old job for a new/new job - motherhood. I feel like I am on a 9-month job interview or something.
More than anything, I am craving a way to figure out how to use this blog to express my excitement and happiness about finally getting to this point, without upsetting my friends who are still waiting for this sort of news for themselves, or who have reached the point of acceptance that baby-by-pregnancy won't happen for them.
I think that has been the hard part for me this week, I have wanted to post but have had maybe a bit of guilt in writing a giddy-happy-go-lucky post about all of this when I know who reads me. The thing is, I feel no different at all. I don't feel changed by this at all - not yet. This is the thing that even Anthony doesn't get - just because you get pregnant, you aren't "cured" from infertility. Infertility is a part of me, it became me, and it will always define me. I am the exact same person I was one week ago, when my RE had told us our best bet was to stop trying to get pregnant. I am the same person, except that I am trying to sort out this new wrinkle, this WONDERFUL yet odd new wrinkle.
I promise I will try to be mindful when posting, because I don't want my excitement and joy to upset others. But I will also use this blog as my much needed journal. It is a tricky line, because if this were a paper journal my entries would be a little more animated than these are. But I have an audience, and I think it is always important to respect those who read me.
So that, my friends, is my biggest craving right now: to figure out a way to write about how excited I am with what is happening to me, but to do so in a way that I don't alienate my blog friends, who I love and who have helped me tremendously over and over again. And equally important, I don't want to alienate myself either. It will be tricky, but I am going to try to find a way to do this to the best of my abilities.